Below we have the wonderful Rebecca Perkins of RebPerkins.com sharing some tips for people in the prime of their life looking to start online dating. Dating for 50+ people can seem daunting, but take a few minutes to read the below and all will seem like a walk in the park – for the full transcript of Rebecca’s tips, please download our Beginners Guide to Online Dating EnjoY!!!
HOW TO HAVE FUN AND BE SUCCESSFUL WHEN YOU’RE ONLINE DATING IN MIDLIFE.
I was 45 when I first dipped my toes into the brave new world of online dating following the ending of a 20 year marriage. I was terrified and excited at the same time. I had no idea what to expect – would I meet the love of my life or end up being stalked by weirdos? Would I enjoy endless entertaining dates or find that all the negative stuff I’d ever read about online dating would be true.
Let me tell you that online dating works! I’ve been happy with my guy whom I met online over 3 years ago. Here’s what I learned along the way…
Be prepared to move out of your comfort zone – unless you stretch yourself and do something different you’re always going to get the same results – take a chance and embrace the results.
No one is perfect – we’ve all got to midlife and we’ve all got our fair share of baggage. Think of it as we’re all kind of perfect in our imperfection!
Let go of being hyper judgmental – use this time as a way to learn more about yourself and your beliefs. Be open minded, you never know who you might meet. He’s not got a degree…she’s not from the right side of town…so what!
Keep your attitude positive and curious – if you go into online dating believing that all men are unfaithful and all women are gold diggers then that’s exactly what you’re going to find. If you’re attitude is more that you’re at the start of an awfully big adventure and that you’re going to have fun then that’s much more likely to be your experience.
Take your time – know that you’re not going to find ‘the one’ after spending 30 minutes online. It’s a process. Don’t become disillusioned after a few bad dates, simply learn from the experience and say, ‘Next’! Having said that, get on with life too! Be realistic and optimistic.
Be clear and honest – talk about your current family commitments, if you’re 50 say so, if you’re only looking for a weekend relationship say so. Expect the same in others too. Dig deeper if something doesn’t quite ring true in someone’s profile, ask plenty of questions.
Write a great profile and have stand out photographs …….
If you want more from Rebecca, plus a tonne of other Online Dating experts, head over to our Beginners Guide to Online Dating for the full breakdown – there are some great blogggers haring absolute gold!