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Interview with Dating Expert – Laura Gub

With the end of 2016 slowly creeping towards us, this means the expected onslaught of people looking to kick off the new year with a new relationship is drawing ever closer. Everyone involved in online dating knows that a common new years resolution to is finally do something about being single and this means looking to join an online dating site or to kick up your efforts to a new level if you already have a profile.
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Dating As An Introvert

I’ve struggled in the past. Being an introvert, especially when it comes to dating is hard. How do you keep up and compete with someone louder, more charismatic, and funnier than you. It took me years to figure the below out, school wasn’t the easiest, everyone secretly craves the attention of their peers and trying to get that as an introvert is hard.
As I made my way through school, university and then essentially ‘growing up’ I have realised introverts and extroverts do not compete, they are apples and oranges. What appeals to one person, will typically turn someone else off.
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Tips for Online Daters 50+

Below we have the wonderful Rebecca Perkins of RebPerkins.com sharing some tips for people in the prime of their life looking to start online dating. Dating for 50+ people can seem daunting, but take a few minutes to read the below and all will seem like a walk in the park – for the full transcript of Rebecca’s tips, please download our Beginners Guide to Online Dating :) EnjoY!!!

HOW TO HAVE FUN AND BE SUCCESSFUL WHEN YOU’RE ONLINE DATING IN MIDLIFE.

I was 45 when I first dipped my toes into the brave new world of online dating following the ending of a 20 year marriage. I was terrified and excited at the same time. I had no idea what to expect – would I meet the love of my life or end up being stalked by weirdos? Would I enjoy endless entertaining dates or find that all the negative stuff I’d ever read about online dating would be true.
Let me tell you that online dating works! I’ve been happy with my guy whom I met online over 3 years ago. Here’s what I learned along the way…
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Insights From eHarmony

So this week we have been blessed with a contribution from the love experts over at eHarmony. I want to thank them for not only contributing to our Beginners Guide to Online Dating but also sharing some of the best discount codes to help my lovely users save when joining their site.
Below eHarmony have shared some insights into what makes a relationship last and how to tell if the relationship you are in, is for keeps!

IT’S ALL VERY WELL MEETING SOMEONE WE CAN GET ALONG WITH, BUT HOW DO WE KNOW IF THE RELATIONSHIP WILL LAST? LUCKILY FOR US, PSYCHOLOGISTS HAVE SPENT YEARS RESEARCHING THIS VERY QUESTION. THEIR FINDINGS MAY SEEM SIMPLE, BUT THE IMPLICATIONS FOR LASTING LOVE ARE PROFOUND.
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Tips for Women Starting Online Dating

In this weeks post we are sharing yet another snippet from our newly released ‘Beginners Guide to Online Dating’ ebook. Below we will hear a short intro from Katy Red who runs a successful blog over at All Sweetness & Life – she will be sharing tips for women who are looking to get inton online dating – perfect timing because eHarmony have their free communication weekend starting today!

Online dating can be a minefield, with so many different sites and apps to choose from and a wealth of information to absorb sometimes it can be difficult to know where to start. And, despite an estimated 1 in 4 couples meeting online these days, when you first delve into the virtual world of dating it can be overwhelming. Fear not however, despite it feeling like you are the only newbie online, rest assured you are most definitely not, however there are a few things to remember for all you ladies before you start online dating.

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Online Dating Tips for Men

This weeks edition is brought to you by Gary Gunn who is the founder of the Social Attraction Academy and author of “An Education In Dating” series. Below he is offering some absolute golden nuggets of actionable info for men looking to start online dating, I cant recommend his section enough. If you are interested, please online dating guide. Thanks Gary!

MORE OFTEN THAN NOT THE MAJORITY OF DATING SITES OUT THERE WILL FOLLOW ON FROM CREATING YOUR BARE ESSENTIALS DATING PROFILE WITH A FEW ADDED QUESTIONS THAT YOU WILL NEED TO ANSWER. IT IS AT THIS IMPORTANT POINT THAT WE HAVE THE CHANCE TO WORD OUR ANSWERS IN A WAY THAT NOT ONLY ENTICES THE WOMEN READING IT, BUT ALSO ALLOWS THEM THE OPPORTUNITY TO EASILY EMAIL US TO FIND OUT MORE.

Fiction – When asked, we should aim to answer all questions when online dating directly.
Fact – Using the art of mystery entices women to want to know more about us.

By not giving the game away by answering any question directly, it also gives us the added benefit of making it much easier for women to want to send us that very first meaningful message to learn more.

Example #1: Favourite local hot spots or travel destinations?
A standard answer would be:
“I love visiting Brazil and go there as often as I can.”
Instead, answer it as:
“Certain parts of South America I cannot get enough of and it’s the culture that keeps drawing me back there for more.”
Why this works…
By being vague about the exact location in South America allows women an easy opportunity to ask us specifically where and what kind of culture we like.

Example #2: What I’m doing with my life?
A standard answer would be:
“Working a lot during the week and trying to make the most of my weekends.”
Instead, answer it as:
“I’m too busy living it to be thinking about it.”
Why this works…
The subtext here conveys that we are indeed a busy individual leading a full life whilst also not giving the game away which implies an element of mystery.

Example #3: Tell us more about your job?
A standard answer would be:
“I’m a primary school teacher who loves working with kids who also loves the long holidays in between.”
Instead, answer it as:
“Every day I wake up I can honestly say I follow my passion, and whilst some would consider it mundane, for me I chose this path because despite knowing my limits I like to push myself to them.”
Why this works…
Because essentially what we’re doing here is explaining our emotions and how we feel about our job which demonstrates what it means to us and the positive effect it has on our life but without giving the game away so again they’re left wanting more.

As always, please visit the Beginners Guide to Online Dating for the full ebook :)

Writing the Perfect Profile

I hope you have all had a great week, I’m super excited to bring this next piece for you guys to read about writing a perfect dating profile.

Writing the perfect profile is from the lovely Saskia Nelson who is the talent behind the award-winning and internationally acclaimed Hey Saturday, the UK’s coolest and original dating photography business. They specialise in creating dating photos that kick ass and win dates for 100s of single people and if you are serious about online dating, Id definitely recommend hitting her team up!
Without further ado, take it away Saskia :)

OBVIOUSLY A VITAL PART OF YOUR DATING PROFILE WILL BE THE PICTURES THAT MAKE THAT FIRST IMPRESSION, THE IMAGES THAT BACK UP THE WORDS YOU HAVE CRAFTED AND WHICH SHED A LIGHT ON, NOT JUST HOW YOU LOOK, BUT WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT. RECENT EXPERT RESEARCH HAS FOUND THAT THE WRITTEN PROFILE ON A DATING SITE MAKES UP LESS THAN 10% OF WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU, WITH THIS IN MIND I HAVE ASKED THE INDUSTRY’S LEADING DATING PHOTOGRAPHY EXPERT, SASKIA NELSON, TO HELP SHARE SOME BEST PRACTICES WHEN ADDING YOUR PROFILE AND SUPPORTING PHOTOS TO GIVE YOU THE BEST START.

QUALITY PHOTOS EQUALS QUALITY DATES:

You still see a large number of profile photos that are poorly lit, blurry or just poor quality. Using good quality photos give the message that you’re serious about finding love online and that you value yourself.
If you aren’t using a professional photographer to take your photos, then head outdoors to find some nice light. Photos taken indoors without a flash are too grainy and blurry, while those taken with a flash tend to be unflattering. Heading outdoors will give you the light you need for pin sharp, good quality images.

EXPRESS YOURSELF

The easiest way to showcase your personality is through the clothes you wear. Choose outfits that make you feel confident and attractive. If your wardrobe is leaving you uninspired, it might be time to treat yourself to something new, just as you would for that hot date.

FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU MAKE IT

The one thing that makes the difference between a nice photo and an awesome one, comes down to one thing – your levels of self-confidence. It’s often hard to summon up high levels of confidence especially with a camera lens pointing at you, so go for the tried-and-tested ‘fake it ‘til you make it’ trick.

GO WHERE YOU LOVE:

Heading somewhere you love can help add value to your photos by giving more of a clue about who you are. If you feel more comfortable in parks and public gardens, head there. Or perhaps you feel more at home in amongst quirky street art. Make sure your background isn’t too messy and enhances your story rather than detracts from it. Remember you aren’t just showcasing you but you’re showcasing your lifestyle too.

I hope those short tips have been useful, for more from Saskia, go download the Beginners Guide to Online Dating and bask in eternal dating glory!
Until next week…

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